tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post6205869256725405863..comments2023-10-10T03:04:15.570-07:00Comments on Grace was Calling and I Didn't Pick up: Coat of Many ColorsKathy M.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17266701533758183054noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-15376091104568598412010-03-09T06:08:36.699-08:002010-03-09T06:08:36.699-08:00wow, kathy, what an awesome post! so inspiring. an...wow, kathy, what an awesome post! so inspiring. and so illuminating. i know i have problems with people-pleasing. but how specific you were helped illuminate for me many things i do and ways i behave that i had not connected all the dots together with people-pleasing. thank you for sharing this. and i'm so glad for you that you no longer deny yourself, and bend to fit the other person. i'm so inspired to see you living as you do. thank you~me as i amhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14709343968813770150noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-76963674248975290402010-03-09T01:06:48.107-08:002010-03-09T01:06:48.107-08:00Nail on the head once again Kathy. "I’m a vac...Nail on the head once again Kathy. "I’m a vacuum filled with the folks I’m with.” Could this be said any better? And snap to start resenting the man for 'wanting me to give up everything that is me' when it has been me all along. Shivers! <br />As you said, no one has asked me to give up anything, and still my life feels like an empty shell I have just returned to, and empty shell that is no longer fully alive. One step at a time I have to learn to feel myself, to remember to feel anything at all.TheUndertakerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12316547511892258854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-53338874918749724532010-03-07T18:59:35.788-08:002010-03-07T18:59:35.788-08:00I found your blog because of a Google alert for my...I found your blog because of a Google alert for <i>my</i> blog. I've been a grateful member of Al-Anon for several years, and your story resonated with me. I'll be back!Kathy Ghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10593849691667606991noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-67509263492815920362010-03-07T12:35:58.032-08:002010-03-07T12:35:58.032-08:00What awesome growth!
Sometimes I say my life is so...What awesome growth!<br />Sometimes I say my life is so hard b/c of my own mind - my mind makes my life so much harder to get through than it is in actuality.<br />Since starting Al-Anon I have been working SO hard to stop people-pleasing (now that I have also identified that is what I do!). I can also relate the the chameleon - interesting.<br />Thanks for sharing your growth experience :)<br />God bless.Heather's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03323023399443964827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-88758699349570840042010-03-07T11:17:40.321-08:002010-03-07T11:17:40.321-08:00..we usually put this pressure on ourselves.. and .....we usually put this pressure on ourselves.. and than we get mad at others when we get tired of all this pressure.. lol. I know... I done the same. :) You sound great now...!!!Ms Hen'shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04844440761689489376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-16627492133795894692010-03-07T09:13:21.546-08:002010-03-07T09:13:21.546-08:00Last night my husband and I sat on the couch toget...Last night my husband and I sat on the couch together, him watching tv, flipping through the channels which drives me nuts, him rubbing my feet which makes up for the channel flipping...with the dog snuggled in between us, and me reading my book. I thought, "This will be our old age. I am so glad that we both have learned to do what works for us. Thanks for sharing...a great post.Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-54763864567628679312010-03-07T08:32:20.082-08:002010-03-07T08:32:20.082-08:00Thank you for sharing your story. It's always ...Thank you for sharing your story. It's always amazing to me how sharing like this is just holding up a mirror....<br /><br />When I started going to CoDA, I did just as you described. I put off attending a meeting for eight months after I started looking into it because there were no meetings at times that I was certain my husband or children would not be home. <br />It took six months of attending meetings for me to get comfortable with saying "no, I can't go out that night because I have a meeting" or "You will have to find a ride home from practice because I have a meeting."<br /><br />Today, I feel more like a "real" person. I have a life! What a concept.Shenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16635993168913490929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-7134469094536257672010-03-07T07:30:07.028-08:002010-03-07T07:30:07.028-08:00You say "Today, instead of having everything ...You say "Today, instead of having everything my own way, I try to meet him in the middle. Neither of us gets our way entirely. But we both get our needs met." That is it in a nutshell. Right on. Living with someone and wanting the relationship to work, we do think of the other person. But it does not take over our entire life. I had to learn to say no to my hubby and it has taken awhile but I don't feel guilty any longer. In the early years with him I would accommodate his schedule and stop what I was doing to do something "with him" thinking it was the right thing to do. We are both much happier with the open honest life we live today. Sounds like you are too. Hugs.CiCihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08615265608675467505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-53073714223418373662010-03-07T07:14:51.880-08:002010-03-07T07:14:51.880-08:00Thank you for this good message,I enjoyed reading ...Thank you for this good message,I enjoyed reading it.what you described is a great recipe for a healthy relationship.Give and Take I learned that in A.A..Mike Golchhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14472496241893921107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-44539340525221926422010-03-07T06:58:46.007-08:002010-03-07T06:58:46.007-08:00You told my story today. Little by little, I got ...You told my story today. Little by little, I got in the practice of stopping and asking myself good questions. Is this what I really want to do. What is my motive? Am I expecting approval? It this adding to my life? Amazing what just stopping and thinking can do for me. It took me a long time and I still have to be vigilant but my life is more my life now than ever.<br /><br />NamasteAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16128247878961221421noreply@blogger.com