tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post4570130502010836793..comments2023-10-10T03:04:15.570-07:00Comments on Grace was Calling and I Didn't Pick up: They Don’t Write Books About Recovery, Do They?Kathy M.http://www.blogger.com/profile/17266701533758183054noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-85359591279259387422010-07-08T15:50:02.019-07:002010-07-08T15:50:02.019-07:00Excellent point. A friend of mine who reads genre...Excellent point. A friend of mine who reads genre fiction (romanc-y stuff) just alerted me to a kerfuffle in the genre-community over a book in which the protagonist puts up with a gambling lover and some very bad behavior. Wouldn't it be interesting if that series showed the heroine's evolution in recovery instead of just being about the lover?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-10805035355520552782010-07-08T15:31:38.601-07:002010-07-08T15:31:38.601-07:00You are absolutely right - that does sound codepen...You are absolutely right - that does sound codependent. The moral is not "fix the other person and get well" the moral is "Worry about your own issues and let the chips fall where they may." SOmetimes people have to learn hard lessons and you carrying them along is only going to put off the inevitable - and make you miserable in the process.<br /><br />Incidently, there are a lot of excellent books on codependency which would cover exactly what you are talking about here. Pick up anything by Melody Beattie (the first one I read was Codependent No More) and any Al-Anon member will likely find themselves within it's pages - as well as many addicts.Shenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16635993168913490929noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-40904584268088849752010-07-08T04:06:54.902-07:002010-07-08T04:06:54.902-07:00You certainly nailed that one.
When my little sis...You certainly nailed that one.<br /><br />When my little sister came to live with me, to recover from a 20 year addiction, I thought I would find some helpful and like minded people among parents of addicts. Nothing could be further from the truth. I have been appalled at them. APALLED.Tonjia Rolanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06426298295977858377noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-41860019910819898592010-07-08T01:11:13.647-07:002010-07-08T01:11:13.647-07:00I'm so glad you wrote this -- it is very frust...I'm so glad you wrote this -- it is very frustrating reading blogs or books focused on a third party with no awareness of the sickness exhibited by partners or family. A codependent is addicted to the sickness of the alcoholic and needs to tell his or her OWN story of reclaiming their lives.<br /><br />Mary LAAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-15901130716803581232010-07-07T19:31:53.068-07:002010-07-07T19:31:53.068-07:00It's interesting because even Lois focused so ...It's interesting because even Lois focused so much on Bill W. at the beginning until she found herself as sick or sicker than he was. I think that co-dependency is a terribly difficult thing to change but it can be done. There need to be more books about solutions and not just problems.Sydhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05642843245634635843noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-12629793710811320102010-07-07T18:16:42.621-07:002010-07-07T18:16:42.621-07:00First of all...I love the word "redemption.&q...First of all...I love the word "redemption." Makes my heart do a little jump. :o) And yeah....maybe you will be the one, my dear. I would be one of the first of your fans to purchase it!Annettehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18326425173333184401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-66318378726349852822010-07-07T17:18:33.496-07:002010-07-07T17:18:33.496-07:00I agree - that would be a good book to read - you ...I agree - that would be a good book to read - you know... I've printed out a lot of your posts... lol I'd read it eagerly if you published! (No pressure of course!)<br />Love & hugs!<br />God bless.Heather's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03323023399443964827noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-28414258482389878842010-07-07T16:59:48.563-07:002010-07-07T16:59:48.563-07:00And, you should write it!And, you should write it!Maude Lynnhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03669688074743095866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-14256419569852556422010-07-07T11:33:22.698-07:002010-07-07T11:33:22.698-07:00I did find some recovery in the book by Charles Ru...I did find some recovery in the book by Charles Rubin entitled "Don't Let Your Kids Kill You: A Guide for Parents of Drug and Alcohol Addicted Children". I still think you should write a book though and I will be buying up plenty of copies!!The neverending battle of child's opiate addictionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04138779247145438268noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-67350321721361904862010-07-07T10:05:29.732-07:002010-07-07T10:05:29.732-07:00Kathy I learn so much from what you have to share....Kathy I learn so much from what you have to share. Here encouraging you to put down your thoughts. Blessings and hugs.Just Be Realhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15815210059310140144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-51867570520300369682010-07-07T10:02:04.762-07:002010-07-07T10:02:04.762-07:00You have your work cut out for you, Kathy. You kno...You have your work cut out for you, Kathy. You know you can write that book. If you are feeling a pull and a need for a book like that, you could do it. I would buy it.CiCihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08615265608675467505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-4599426110976971722010-07-07T09:47:25.291-07:002010-07-07T09:47:25.291-07:00I agree with the others. Please start writing and ...I agree with the others. Please start writing and put me down for a dozen books.VJhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10009110521934666163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-29884084438370945152010-07-07T08:06:12.169-07:002010-07-07T08:06:12.169-07:00You brought up a good point. There are books, tv ...You brought up a good point. There are books, tv shows about addicts/alcoholics. The family is just as sick. Pick up the pen my friend.Lorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06284123619357068571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-54522382870993254642010-07-07T07:59:31.406-07:002010-07-07T07:59:31.406-07:00Let it begin with me...maybe there is a book in yo...Let it begin with me...maybe there is a book in you waiting to be written?? ::hugs::<br /><br />♥namaste♥Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16128247878961221421noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2795313202070429109.post-59758053635920126782010-07-07T07:18:45.548-07:002010-07-07T07:18:45.548-07:00Kathy,
So true. Maybe you will be the one to write...Kathy,<br />So true. Maybe you will be the one to write it? I love reading your blog so I know I would love reading your book. You never know....<br /><br />Blessings,<br />TammyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com